479. Coaching Hotline: How to Say No When You Fear Being Rude & When You Can't Change Your Thoughts Yet

Do you worry that saying no makes you rude, selfish, or a bad person? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I break down why what you’ve been taught to call “politeness” is often just people pleasing in disguise, and how that conditioning keeps you stuck in self doubt. Then I answer a question I hear all the time in different forms, what do you do when you understand thought work but you still can’t change your thoughts? I explain why you are not missing a tool, why nothing has gone wrong, and why this frustrating in between stage is actually a normal and necessary part of the process. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/479 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: FREE GUIDE: The Top Three Things I Wish I Had Known Before Becoming A Coach The world needs coaches. The world needs our work. The world needs your specific perspective, your experiences, your special sauce. Even if you don’t know that yet, I do. And I want to help you get there. Download this guide at Click here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

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479. Coaching Hotline: How to Say No When You Fear Being Rude & When You Can't Change Your Thoughts Yet is an episode from UnF*ck Your Brain: A feminist blueprint to getting the life you want by Kara Loewentheil.

This episode is 17:01 long.

This episode was published on Mar 31, 2026.

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