4:4 The Perfectionist, Controller & People Pleaser: Your Manager Parts Explained

Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffelman

Aug 26, 202618:11Kids & family

Susan continues her Parenting Without Power Struggles series on Internal Family Systems, introducing "manager" parts. A healthy manager keeps life running smoothly, but when driven by old fears or insecurities, it can ti...

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