4:2 Blindsided by Rage: An IFS Look at Firefighter Parts

Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffelman

Aug 13, 202614:14Kids & family

In this episode, Susan explores what Internal Family Systems (IFS) calls "firefighter" parts — protective parts that flood in with fast, intense reactions like rage, trying to put out old emotional pain, often at a cost...

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