LH166—Don’t be Yourself - Dark Personalities, Incivility, and Perfectionism

"Just be yourself" might be the worst advice you've ever been given. In this episode of the Life Habits Podcast, we're taking apart the myths running modern life — and the research that actually helps you navigate it. Suzanne makes the case for why "being yourself" has become a shield for bad behavior and what to do instead. MJ unpacks the quiet rise of incivility, it’s causes, and what we can do about it. Mandy takes on the perfection trap, and Karel digs into the Dark Triad of narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy and how to survive these toxic personalities showing up in our workplaces and lives. Tell us in the comments which trap has had the strongest grip on you? And please rate and

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LH166—Don’t be Yourself - Dark Personalities, Incivility, and Perfectionism is an episode from Life Habits by Karel Vredenburg & Paige Heron.

This episode is 01:23:22 long.

This episode was published on Apr 22, 2026.

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