Why Being "Too Nice" Can Be a Survival Strategy

Stuck Not Broken by Justin Sunseri

Aug 18, 202609:02Health

Not every survival strategy looks like fighting back or running away. Sometimes it looks like befriending the person who's hurting you. This episode covers the last two mixed states: appease (safety plus flight/fight plu...

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