People-Pleasing vs Kindness: How to Stop Self-Abandonment [47]

Mental health is essential for each and every one of us, yet most of us don't get to learn the key components that can help us cultivate mental wellness. In The Mental Wellness Practice , you can learn important information, delve into reflection prompts, and leave with practical strategies. In episode 47, Dr. Shainna is joined by Craig Smith, husband, father, therapist, podcaster, and creator of the FOCUS Journal. Together they examine the quote, “People-pleasing is self-abandonment dressed up as kindness” and offer practical, compassionate guidance to shift from people-pleasing towards kindness. Here are some questions that are addressed in this episode: What is kindness? What is self-abandonment? What is people-pleasing? What is self-betrayal? What is self-neglect? Why do we people-please? How do we know if we are people-pleasing? How can we practice genuine kindness? What is the connection between self-love and kindness? About Craig: Craig Smith is a powerful man of God, a patient, present, loving father and husband, a FAITH spreader, a LOVE giver, and a HOPE dealer. He strives to live every day attracting love, success, and abundance into his life and inspire as many people as he can to do the same. For over a decade, Craig has helped individuals change their mindset and create the desired change in their lives. Craig strives to live and promote the Greatest Day Mindset, which is a lifestyle, a way of living every day with a positive attitude. It is choosing to be happy and live your life with energy, no matter your circumstances. Craig believes that while today may not be your last day on earth, it is the only day so why not choose to make today the Greatest Day of your life. Follow Craig on IG Join the Inner Greatness Community Checkout the free Focus on Gratitude Community Checkout the FOCUS journal About Dr. Shainna: Dr. Shainna is a mental health counselor, educator, and advocate who is passionate about destigmatizing mental health counseling and helping individuals worldwide recognize the importance of fostering mental wellness. She is the creator of The Self-Love Workbook, The Self-Love Workbook for Teens, Luna Finds Love Everywhere: A Self-Love Book for Kids, The Self-Love Planner, and Designing Healthy Boundaries. She has been featured through outlets such as Vogue, ABC, CBS, NPR Washington Post, and Insider. Dr. Shainna’s passion for promoting mental health awareness and access inspired her to host the Mental Wellness Practice Podcast. Stay Connected: Follow Dr. Shainna on Instagram or Facebook → ⁠ @drshainna⁠ Find more resources, workshops, and support → ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ 💌 Love what you’re hearing? Share, follow, and leave a review, it helps others find this space too. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 💤 TapeHer → The mouth tape that transformed Dr. Shainna’s sleep routine. Try it with code DRSHAINNA at ⁠ 💍 Anxiring → Intentional jewelry designed to support self-regulation and calm. Get your discount with code DRSHAINNA at ⁠ Mental Wellness Resources: Designing Healthy Boundaries The Self-Love Workbook The Self-Love Workbook for Teens The Self-Love Planner Luna Finds Love Everywhere Find a Mental Health Provider: National Alliance on Mental Illness National Mental Health Lifeline Open Path Therify Melanin & Mental Health Inclusive Therapists Therapy for Black Girls Asian Mental Health Collective This podcast is for educational purposes only. If you are experiencing symptoms of a mental health disorder, please consult with a licensed professional.

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People-Pleasing vs Kindness: How to Stop Self-Abandonment [47] is an episode from The Mental Wellness Practice by Dr. Shainna: mental health counselor, educator, & advocate.

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This episode was published on Aug 25, 2025.

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