372: The Fantasy of Fixing People Pt. 3

The Connected Life by Justin Stumvoll

Feb 16, 202601:05:27Health

Most of us don't set out to control people—we think we're helping. We say it's love, protection, or just wanting the best. But underneath, codependency often looks like playing God , trying to save others from pain so we...

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