Why You Get Defensive When You Hear “You’ve Hurt My Feelings”

Secure Marriage Podcast by Paul & Shannon Elmore

Jul 7, 202520:23Kids & family

Why do we immediately put up walls when someone says ‘You’ve hurt my feelings’? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast , you’ll discover the psychological reason behind this universal resp...

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