How to Respond to Feedback Without Spiralling (The Pistachio Nut Method)

Ever gotten feedback at work that just... stung? Like, you worked your ass off on a project, pulled off what felt like a miracle given the circumstances, only to be told you "weren't enthusiastic enough" or "should have felt more excited"? Yeah, that's the kind of feedback that can send you spiraling. In this episode, I'm breaking down why feedback hits us so damn hard in the first place, and more importantly, what to do about it. I'll share my pistachio nut framework for figuring out what feedback is actually worth keeping versus what's just... someone else's baggage you don't need to carry. If you've ever felt like you're constantly taking things too personally or spiraling after every piece of criticism, this one's for you. Together we'll explore.. The neuroscience behind why feedback feels like a threat The "pistachio nut" framework for filtering feedback Three essential filters: truth, actionability, and source Why self-compassion beats self-criticism every time When feedback is information about fit, not failure Ready to actually stop taking things so personally? You can listen to every podcast episode and know all the strategies, but if you're still spiraling after every piece of criticism, nothing changes. That's where coaching comes in. I help women get clear on which feedback is actually worth listening to, how to separate behavior from worth without falling apart, and most importantly—how to stop making other people's opinions mean more than your own. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music , the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website:

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How to Respond to Feedback Without Spiralling (The Pistachio Nut Method) is an episode from Okay. Now What? - A Show for The Young and The Anxious. by Kate Gladdin.

This episode is 39:31 long.

This episode was published on Dec 3, 2025.

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