Why ‘I Have To’ Is Keeping You Stuck (And What To Say Instead)

How many times this week have you thought, "I just don't have a choice"? About your rota, your inbox, the extra patient squeezed in at the end of clinic? That thought feels true, and it can feel like a fact... But what if it’s actually a story, and that story is costing you your peace of mind? In this episode, Rachel sits down with Robbie Swale, coach, author of ‘The Power to Choose’, and creator of the 12 Minute Method, to dig into why reclaiming a sense of agency and choice matters so deeply for your wellbeing. Together, they explore how small shifts in language and perception can move you from feeling like life is happening to you to feeling like you are actually living it on purpose. Key Takeaways Switching "I have to" to "I choose to" is not just a mindset trick. It activates a different part of your nervous system and genuinely changes how you experience pressure. You almost certainly have more options than you can currently see. Curiosity, not certainty, is what opens them up. The 12 Minute Method proves that tiny, consistent actions compound. One lunchtime walk a week adds up to 50 walks over a year, and that matters. Feeling stuck is usually a sign you have not yet had the conversation, asked the question, or taken the step you already know you need to take. Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtra Resources Mentioned: 🐸 FrogFest Virtual 🐸 The Power to Choose: Finding Calm and Connection in a Complex World by Robbie Swale 🐸 The 12-Minute Method Books Mentioned in this episode: 🟦 The Shapes Academy

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Why ‘I Have To’ Is Keeping You Stuck (And What To Say Instead) is an episode from You Are Not A Frog by Dr Rachel Morris.

This episode is 51:57 long.

This episode was published on Apr 6, 2026.

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