Why Other People Trigger You—and What It Reveals About Your Own Healing

Learn how to JournalSpeak ➡️ ⁠LEARN HOW:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today’s conversation grew out of a powerful question from our Heal with Nicole community about victim mindset, self-compassion, and the internal conflict so many of us carry without even realizing it. I use this post as a doorway into a much bigger discussion about the stories we tell ourselves, the shame we attach to certain parts of who we are, and the hidden reasons we judge other people so harshly. I also share a formative college exercise that has stayed with me for decades, one that reveals something profound: the qualities that most trigger us in others often point to disowned parts of ourselves. When we begin to understand that, rather than judge it, we open the door to real compassion. This episode is ultimately about the conflict that lives inside us and how that conflict fuels TMS, anxiety, pain, and chronic nervous system dysregulation. I talk about why it is the conflict that creates so much suffering, how self-judgment quietly fills the emotional reservoir, and why self-compassion is not optional in this work. I also walk you through a simple but powerful self-compassion practice you can begin using right away, and I invite you into a JournalSpeak exercise that can help you uncover what is really being activated beneath your resentment, rigidity, or shame. If you’ve ever wondered why certain people get under your skin, why you are so hard on yourself, or why your symptoms flare when you feel emotionally torn, this episode will give you a completely new way to understand yourself. Join us! XOOX n. ⁠⁠

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Why Other People Trigger You—and What It Reveals About Your Own Healing is an episode from The Cure for Chronic Pain with Nicole Sachs, LCSW by Nicole Sachs, LCSW.

This episode is 45:25 long.

This episode was published on Mar 27, 2026.

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