1237: Why Anxiety Feels Stuck And The Subtle Patterns That Keep It Going

In today's episode Gina discusses feeling stuck with anxiety and how to keep this feeling from creating a self-fulfilling feedback loop. Remember, expending effort trying to avoid the anxiety will not help. Understanding that anxiety is not an enemy to be feared but may be accepted as a companion will help loosen the anxiety's grip on our minds and bodies and let the adverse bodily sensations and mental states pass more quickly. Listen in for a guide on how to allow this process to happen! Stillpoint Fridays is my once-a-week Friday note — a slower, more personal reflection that’s different from what I share on the podcast. If you’d like a quiet place to land as the week winds down, you can join here: or on our website anxietycoachespodcast.com and sign up for the newsletter. Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! Website Join our community Group Coaching Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program 1:1 Coaching Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching If you prefer to listen AD-FREE , try our Supercast premium access membership : Learn more about anxiety What is anxiety? Free Guided Meditation for Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Quote: You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf. -Jon Kabat-Zinn Chapters 0:26 Introduction to Anxiety Exploration 1:04 Understanding Why Anxiety Feels Stuck 5:24 The Dangers of Avoidance 6:48 Living in Fix-It Mode 9:55 You Are Not Your Anxiety 10:39 Shifting Your Relationship with Anxiety 13:02 Embracing Allowance Over Control 15:24 Discomfort Does Not Equal Danger 17:34 Inspiring Closing Quote Long Summary In this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, I delve into the pervasive feeling of anxiety that many individuals experience, particularly the sensation of anxiety feeling stuck and unyielding. We start with a crucial acknowledgment: if your anxiety feels like it’s lingering despite your efforts to manage it, this doesn’t signify failure. In fact, it is often your nervous system attempting to protect you, illustrating the paradox where the intense effort to eliminate anxiety can sometimes make it feel more prominent. I explore the significant role of attention in this dynamic. When we focus on our anxiety to work through it, we inadvertently give it more power. This creates a feedback loop where the more we try to dispel these feelings, the more they manifest, leading to greater anxiety. I explain how anticipatory fear can exacerbate the situation—by worrying about experiencing uncomfortable sensations, we only fuel the anxiety. In this episode, I stress the importance of understanding our reactions and how the body learns to associate certain sensations with danger, prompting hyper-vigilance that keeps us trapped in an anxious state. The discussion shifts to the topic of avoidance, a natural response to discomfort that can provide short-term relief but ultimately leads to long-term challenges. I articulate how avoiding uncomfortable situations or sensations can narrow our tolerance and lead to an amplified perception of anxiety. This avoidance creates a vicious cycle where the anxiety not only persists but grows in intensity over time. I emphasize that while it’s essential to find immediate safety, this reliance on avoidance can constrict our emotional range and overall ability to engage fully in life. See Privacy Policy at and California Privacy Notice at .

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1237: Why Anxiety Feels Stuck And The Subtle Patterns That Keep It Going is an episode from The Anxiety Coaches Podcast by Gina Ryan.

This episode is 00:18:15 long.

This episode was published on Apr 15, 2026.

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