"Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults" with Caroline Maguire

--- Join the Declutter Challenge! Registration is now open through May 15! --- If you've ever given everything to a friendship and been left wondering what went wrong, Caroline Maguire has a gentle but clarifying answer: you probably gave too much, too soon, to someone who hadn't yet earned it. That's not a character flaw — it's the ADHD brain doing what it does when it finally finds someone who sees it. The dopamine hit of new connection can tip straight into hyperfocus, and suddenly you're all-in on a relationship that hasn't had time to prove itself. Caroline calls it the impulsive friendship cycle, and she has spent years helping neurodivergent adults find their way out of it. Caroline is a social emotional learning expert, ADHD coach, and author of the award-winning Why Will No One Play With Me . Her new book, Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults , arrives April 14th — and it's not another book that asks you to fix yourself to fit a friendship model built for someone else's social battery. Instead, she starts with a reframe that carries the whole conversation: our friendship struggles are not a personal failing. They're a neurological mismatch between the way we were taught to connect and the way our brains actually work. In this conversation, we dig into the masking vs. adapting distinction that has already sparked significant conversation in our Discord community — including what makes the difference between reading a room and suppressing yourself entirely. Caroline walks us through the ice cream scoop method for building trust slowly, what "emerging friend" means and why it matters, how to troubleshoot a friendship before you decide it's over, and the unmasking story she never expected to tell — including the moment Ned Hallowell called her out on a mask she didn't know she was wearing. This episode is part of our ongoing relationships series, and it may be the most practical and personally honest conversation we've had in it yet. The book is available for pre-order now, with bonus resources, at any major bookseller. Links & Notes Caroline Maguire Support the Show on Patreon Dig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:34) - Introducing Caroline Maguire (04:02) - Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults (16:31) - Adapting versus Masking (29:18) - Over-extending "Friendship" (42:15) - About the Book ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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"Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults" with Caroline Maguire is an episode from Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast by TruStory FM.

This episode is 44:26 long.

This episode was published on Mar 19, 2026.

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