How does an abusive person become an abusive person?

Love and Abuse by Paul Colaianni

Apr 30, 202618:02Health

There's got to be a reason someone becomes abusive, right? All abusers abused as children... is that it? Maybe it's a mental health issue. Maybe it's none, some, or all of the above. Or maybe it's something else.

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