EP 0083 - Anger Is About A Want

Schedule a Complimentary Coaching Session Empowering Individuals To Break Free From Childhood Programming, Emotional Paralysis, and Family System Roles. This is not traditional talk therapy. Inner Work Coaching is a raw, honest, personalized experience. It’s Not You – It’s Your Unmet Rage You keep turning the anger inward because it feels safer than facing the truth: the people who were supposed to protect you failed you completely. Self-hate is just misplaced fury at them, dressed up as punishment for a child who had no power. Passive healing tricks won’t touch this—you have to feel the full weight of what was stolen from you before anything changes. Redirecting the Fire Anger is always signaling a want. Hate points to a deep, unmet need. When the rage stays locked on yourself it keeps you small, helpless, and loyal to the old role of the victim who never gets to fight back. The brutal shift is turning that anger outward toward the abusers—not forever, but long enough to stop punishing the wrong person. You were never allowed to be mad at them as a kid. Directing the hate at them for a season creates breathing room so you can finally stop abandoning yourself and start meeting your own needs. Three Important Takeaways Anger always reveals a want and hate reveals an unmet core need—figure out exactly what you’re demanding from yourself or them instead of letting the emotion run on autopilot. Shifting self-hate onto your abusers temporarily is a necessary step to free up internal space; staying stuck in either direction keeps you enslaved to the past. True freedom arrives only after you stop needing their love or approval, fill your own holes, and build self-worth so strong that their words and actions lose power over you. Continue Reading at joeryan.com

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EP 0083 - Anger Is About A Want is an episode from It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan by Joe Ryan.

This episode is 00:30:35 long.

This episode was published on May 15, 2024.

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