Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things)

You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why? In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself. This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a personal standard. And that’s when it hit me: most of us confuse self love with self care, but the real game-changer is honoring the bar you’ve set for your life. If you’ve ever lowered your standards to stay comfortable, keep the peace, or avoid being alone—this conversation is for you. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today! Android: iPhone: FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can listen to Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things) online on Radio and Podcast. Open the player on this page to stream the available audio.

Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things) is an episode from Having It ALL: Conversations about living an Abundant Loving Life by Matthew Bivens.

This episode is 12:39 long.

This episode was published on Jun 25, 2025.

Yes. Use the heart button on the episode page to add it to your favorite episodes list.

Yes. This page shows related episodes from Having It ALL: Conversations about living an Abundant Loving Life when more episodes are available from the podcast feed.