HAM Episode 59 - The Biggest Loser - Karpman Drama Triangle

Brandon and Seibo discuss the Karpman Drama Triangle allowing us to better understand relationship dynamics using this framework. The Karpman Drama Triangle is a social model of human interaction mapping a particular destructive type of interaction. The model analyses the connection between personal responsibility and power in conflict, as well as the shifting roles people embody in this type of interaction. The Triangle contains three distinct roles: Victim – powerless, helpless and ashamed. The victim hopes for the rescuer to change everything without empowering themselves. Persecutor – critical, blaming, authoritarian, the persecutor oppresses the victim by bullying and threats. The persecutor usually presents because of building resentment and feelings of being underappreciated. Rescuer – Needs to feel important, by enabling the victim they validate their own importance. Rescuing takes the attention off the rescuer's own problems so they do not need to confront their own issues. The pair use the Karpman Triangle to analyse how this destructive behaviour can impact us as individuals and affect us as human beings. Brandon and Seibo then move onto discuss situations and times in their own lives where they embodied each of these roles, what they learned from these experiences, and how they turned these experiences into positive action. Brandon reflects on his romantic challenges and times in his twenties and thirties where these roles presented themselves, but also talks about how he transformed these experiences into positive action once he challenged these dynamics. Brandon closes his part by recommending Atomic Habits which discusses the pay offs for certain habits such as: achievement, autonomy, and comfort if listeners want to further understand these dynamics. Moving on, Seibo talks about how breaking from the cycle helped him find more appreciation to help and give back to others. One heartwarming experience he reflects on is practicing Jiu Jitsu with his two daughters and the joy of helping others improve and grow without expecting anything in return or using nefarious means. The podcast then closes out by reminding listeners how using the Karpman Triangle can be beneficial in identifying times when we are behaving in a toxic manner and avoid the pitfalls which may impact our relationship with others.

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HAM Episode 59 - The Biggest Loser - Karpman Drama Triangle is an episode from HAM Podcast - Happy Asian Males Discussing Sex, Philosophy, and Health by Brandon Chien.

This episode is 41:00 long.

This episode was published on Feb 1, 2020.

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