Quickie w/ Julie: Dating Skills vs. Relating Skills

If you find yourself getting dates but they never turn into relationships, you may be over-indexiing "dating skills" and undervaluing "relating" ones. In this episode, Julie breaks down the difference between dating skills (the spark) and relating skills (the glue), and why most people obsess over chemistry but ignore the skills that actually build connection. If you’re cycling through almost-relationships, or wondering why nothing sticks, this episode will show you how to refocus your attention to skills that actually are more natural to begin with! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks:

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Quickie w/ Julie: Dating Skills vs. Relating Skills is an episode from Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating by Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick.

This episode is 6:23 long.

This episode was published on Mar 27, 2026.

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