How to Give Consequences Without Yelling at Your Teenager

Your teenage son breaks curfew again. He ignores responsibilities. He pushes back on everything. You try consequences, but nothing sticks. Sound familiar? In this episode, Dr. Mark Schillinger reveals why most consequences fail and what actually works instead. The difference? Staying calm, being clear, and teaching rather than punishing. What You'll Learn: The 4 C's of effective consequences: Calm, Clear, Concise, and Certain Why being "dispassionate" is your secret weapon when your son lashes out How to give your son TWO choices (and why this changes everything) The one question that will blow your son's mind: "What do you think you should do?" When to give a consequence immediately vs. when to wait How to match consequences to the specific virtue your son violated Resource Mentioned Email info@challengingteenagesons.com for the free consequence list and weekly parenting tips. More Resources On-demand and live, online workshops for teenagers and young men are available here: For a complimentary 20-minute consultation with Dr. Mark or for more information about his parent coaching and mentoring young men, go to About Dr. Mark Schillinger Dr. Mark Schillinger's work has been featured on the CNN show "This is Life with Lisa Ling." These videos are designed to help parents more effectively "challenge" or motivate their teenage sons to become more responsible and resilient. These videos offer straightforward advice so parents can minimize conflict and maximize cooperation with their sons – especially those young men who are distracted by their digital devices. For more information, visit Connect with Dr. Mark Instagram: Facebook: LinkedIn:

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How to Give Consequences Without Yelling at Your Teenager is an episode from Challenging Teenage Sons by Dr Mark Schillinger.

This episode is 15:42 long.

This episode was published on Dec 10, 2025.

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