#091 - are you 'protecting your peace' or is it just avoidance in disguise?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the ways we convince ourselves we’re doing something noble - spiritual, even - when really, we’re just avoiding the thing that actually wants to set us free. Like last week, this conversation is personal. It’s present. And it’s pulled straight from the patterns I’ve had to face, and some I’m still facing, in real time. If you’re someone who’s ever thought or said ‘I’m just protecting my peace’ while secretly knowing that something deeper is going unaddressed, this episode is for you. I asked a confronting question: Are you protecting your peace, or is it just avoidance in disguise? And I take us all through the 8 shadowy, often socially-acceptable ways avoidance hides in plain sight. I go into how we cloak it as boundaries, empowerment, self-care, independence, or emotional intelligence. I speak about: The silent treatment as a form of self-sabotage, masked as boundary-setting. How we wear solitude like a badge of honour, when it’s actually isolation . The self-betrayal of over-compromising and calling it “keeping the peace.” The seductive nature of numbing through productivity, fitness, or “wellness.” Avoiding commitment and calling it “empowered detachment.” LOL How refusing accountability is often disguised as “not engaging in drama.” Dodging difficult feedback under the guise of “protecting your energy.” And the ultimate intimacy-killer: withdrawing emotionally and calling it space . I loveddddd this one because I shared stories from my own life, including my past relationships, addiction, healing, and even the deeply internal narratives that still challenge me today. This episode is an invitation to look closely at the ways you might be calling something peace when it’s really just another way to avoid yourself, others, or 'the work'. If you've been telling yourself, "I’m just protecting my peace" , but it doesn’t feel peaceful in your body… this one is for you. Let me know what lands. Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery. Request it at your libraries too!) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE,

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#091 - are you 'protecting your peace' or is it just avoidance in disguise? is an episode from Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke by Africa Brooke.

This episode is 57:51 long.

This episode was published on Mar 24, 2025.

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