Why Being “The Strong One” Is a Form of Self-Sabotage with Dr. Lisette Sanchez

Greetings everyone, and welcome to another episode of Conversations Spoken in the Dark. I’m your host, Hermence Matsotsa , Transformational Leadership and Career Transition Coach and Founder of uBuntuSpeaks. I created this podcast because too often, the most meaningful conversations — the ones about identity, healing, belonging, and how we live, learn, and lead — are whispered in the dark. They go unspoken, overlooked, or carried as silent burdens. Conversations Spoken in the Dark is a space to bring those stories into the light so we can name them, understand them, and begin to heal — both individually and collectively. In today’s episode, I’m joined by Dr. Lisette Sanchez , bilingual and bicultural psychologist, international speaker, writer, and contributor to Oprah Daily , where she recently published the article “Why Being ‘The Strong One’ Is a Form of Self-Sabotage.” We’re unpacking what it really means to be “the strong one,” especially for Black, Indigenous, and Women of Color — and how that strength, while often celebrated, can become a form of self-sabotage that keeps us from rest, support, and true resilience. Together, we’ll explore impostor phenomenon, intergenerational healing, and how we can redefine what strength looks and feels like for ourselves and our communities. Also learn Dr. Sanchez LOOP method when applied will help us take better care of ourselves. So settle in and join me for this powerful conversation. Let’s step into the light together. About Guest: Dr. Lisette Sanchez is a bilingual and bicultural psychologist, international speaker, writer, and founder of Calathea Wellness, a virtual platform dedicated to supporting first-generation professionals. Raised in Southern California by Salvadoran and Mexican immigrant parents, she brings both expertise and lived experience to her work on identity, belonging, and intergenerational healing. Through her work, she helps individuals and organizations break through barriers like impostor phenomenon, build resilience, and honor cultural roots. Whether in therapy, on the page, or at the podium, Dr. Lisette is a trusted guide helping individuals transform cultural complexity into clarity, pride, and purpose. Links: Website: LinkedIn: Instagram: YouTube: CSID Podcast Host Hermence Matsotsa is the Founder and CEO of uBuntuSpeaks, LLC and host of Conversations Spoken in the Dark . She is a Transformational Leadership and Career Transition Coach dedicated to helping leaders and teams thrive in high-pressure, multicultural environments. Through Positive Intelligence (PQ) coaching , Cultural Intelligence (CQ) training , psychological safety workshops , and inclusive leadership development , Hermence empowers organizations to build workplaces where people feel valued, connected, and empowered. Grounded in the South African philosophy of UBUNTU — “I am because we are” — Hermence created Conversations Spoken in the Dark to bring light to the unspoken stories of identity, healing, and belonging that connect us all. Connect with Hermence: 📧 hermence@ubuntuworkforce.com 📅 Book a conversation 🌍 Social Media Social media links: LinkedIn - Facebook- Instagram - Twitter - TikTok -

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This episode was published on Oct 13, 2025.

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