Talking To Yourself

In this episode, Neil dives into the constant, often critical chatter happening inside your head. Drawing insights from Shad Helmstetter's book, What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, Neil explores how our internal dialogue acts as the programming language for our lives. With research suggesting that up to 80% of our daily self-talk is negative and unconsciously inherited from childhood, many of us are running on outdated "mental malware." KEY TAKEAWAYS Your Self-Talk is Your Programming: Your subconscious mind acts exactly like a computer (GIGO: garbage in, garbage out). It accepts the repetitive thoughts you feed it as absolute truth, which in turn dictates your attitudes, feelings, and actions. Beware of the 80% Trap: Research indicates that roughly 80% of an average person's daily self-talk is entirely negative. This constant internal pessimism heavily influences how you behave and the limits you place on your own potential. Childhood "Malware": Much of your negative self-talk isn't even your fault; it's the result of early childhood conditioning. Well-meaning parents, teachers, and authority figures inadvertently installed limiting beliefs that you accepted without a filter. The Five Levels of Self-Talk: Your internal dialogue exists on a spectrum from the bottom of the "poo pile" to deep empowerment. Conscious Overwriting: You have the power to "reprogram" your brain. By consciously choosing to repeat positive, intentional statements, you use the same mental pathways that installed your original fears to overwrite them with self-executing routines for success. BEST MOMENTS "Your subconscious mind works like a computer: it accepts what you repeatedly tell it for better or worse, as truth. As the computer guys say, GIGO: garbage in, garbage out." "80% of what you think and what you say to yourself is doing you down, influencing how you act, what you believe, and what results you're going to get out of life." "These were mainly credible authority figures who were effectively installing mental malware in your young brain. It's not your fault they got in." "You're just using the same pathway that the malware used to get into your system in the first place, in order to install better software or scripts now." "If you change the voice in your head from negative and automatic to positive and intentional, you can reshape your mindset, you can reshape your habits, and you can have more happiness and success in life." VALUABLE RESOURCES info@neilcowmeadow.com HOST BIO Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media.

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Talking To Yourself is an episode from The Tutor Podcast by Neil Cowmeadow .

This episode is 14:26 long.

This episode was published on Apr 27, 2026.

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