“What Does It Matter” pt. 1
I get asked this on a regular basis, both from people who are in the middle of wanting to save their marriage, and those who are wanting to...
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20 of 216 episodesStop Your Blow-up
Slowly, slowly... you are making progress! You keep working on turning your marriage around... and it is working! Maybe you think it isn't m...
Stop Fishing!
You may just be on a fishing expedition, and not even realize it! If you are trying to get your spouse to respond, trying to get some feedba...
Right Thing vs. Right Way
Today, I tackle a pretty sensitive subject: the difference between "Doing The Right Thing" and "Doing It Right." Let me be very clear: I bel...
Space vs. Connection??
It is such a common demand from a spouse during a marital crisis: “I need space! You just need to give me space!” Yet here I am, telling you...
For When Marriage Gets Hard
“Why is marriage so hard?” That is a question I often hear from struggling couples. What happened? All of that love, all the connection, see...
Apology ==> Reconciling
You have already journeyed to here. Maybe your relationship is hurting and in pain. Maybe your connection has gone cold. But however you got...
Rejection…Protection…Perception!
You are working on your marriage. You reach out toward your spouse. . . only to feel rejected. After that stops you in your tracks. You star...
Are You Fighting for Connection?
“Should I even keep fighting for my marriage?”, asks “G.” Oof, that word… “fighting.” I hear it often. But so many times, when someone says...
Four Fails to Saving Your Marriage
First, let me be clear: if you are actively saving your marriage, working toward a better relationship... stop reading and go do something e...
What Stage is the Crisis?
In my Save The Marriage System Quick-Start Guide, I show the 8 distinct stages of a marriage crisis. But those are the stages of the crisis....
Marriage In The Kettle
You've heard the story about the frog and the kettle. It's the slowly heating water that sneaks up on the frog before it can react. Turns ou...
Having Hope vs. Building Hope
Most people wait for hope to show up. They treat it like weather — something that either arrives or doesn't, something outside their control...
When You Failed Therapy (Or Therapy Failed YOU)
She did everything right. When her marriage hit a crisis, she and her husband went to therapy. They showed up every week. They stayed with i...
When Your Spouse Says Divorce: What To Do In The Next 72 Hours
If your spouse has said the word divorce — or you're afraid they're about to — the next 72 hours matter more than you might think. Not becau...
CAN Every Marriage Be Saved??
People ask me this all the time. And given that my website is called Save The Marriage, most assume they already know my answer. They're wro...
Is Your Marriage Bankrupt — Or Just Overdrawn?
Most people who contact me have already decided. They've looked at where things stand — the distance, the silence, the failed attempts — and...
Dials and Switches
No, this isn't some electrical engineering idea. Instead, it has more to do with human nature. We often want to find the switch, the on/off...
How to Stop Dysregulaton Before it Stops You – EJ and Tarah Kerwin
You weren't trying to blow it up. You weren't trying to say the thing that sent everything sideways. And yet — there you were, reactive and...
Addicted to Blame?
Are you and your spouse addicted to blame? Do you find yourself pointing your finger toward your spouse, sure that it is really your spouse'...