Embarrassed To Leave, Embarrassed To Stay: The Truth About The Trauma Bond!

What happens when your childhood is marked by extreme survival, only for you to unconsciously recreate that exact nightmare in your adult marriage? In this profoundly raw and unfiltered episode, author, creator, and survivor Grace Sandra joins Lee Hammock to unpack the terrifying reality of severe trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and ultimate resilience. Grace bravely opens up about surviving a childhood Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score of 10, her ex-husband's chilling "simulation theory" threats, and the bizarre moment he claimed he wasn't a narcissist, just "strictly evil." This conversation is a masterclass in cognitive dissonance, understanding why trauma bonds are physically addictive, and how to finally reclaim your identity on the other side of darkness. Connect with Grace Sandra: 📸 Instagram: 🌐 Website & Resources: 📚 Check out her book on Amazon: Grace Actually: Memoirs and Musings on Faith, Love, Loss and Black Womanhood

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Embarrassed To Leave, Embarrassed To Stay: The Truth About The Trauma Bond! is an episode from The Narcissists' Code by Lee Hammock.

This episode is 01:18:32 long.

This episode was published on May 29, 2026.

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