Why the Betrayer Shuts Down: The Shame Collapse Behind the Silence

The Marriage Podcast for Smart People by Caleb & Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele

Sep 3, 202631:42Religion & Spirituality

If you have gone completely blank while your partner asked questions about what you did, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda break down what is actually happening in your nervous system in that moment, why toxic...

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