The ‘selfish’ woman's guide to divorce

If you've ever felt guilty for putting yourself first, this episode is for you. Kate is joined by Valerie Jones , author, coach and founder of The Selfish Woman movement, to explore what it really means to be a 'selfish woman' in divorce - and why reclaiming that word could be one of the most important things you do for yourself. We talk about: What being a 'selfish woman' really means – and why reclaiming it matters How to rebuild self-trust when divorce has knocked your confidence The moment Valerie knew it was time to leave her marriage The difference between healthy guilt and the kind that holds you back Why taking a moment to pause is one of the most powerful things you can do Practical ways to start showing up for yourself again This episode is for any woman who has ever put herself last – whether she’s in the middle of separation, still deciding or rebuilding life on the other side. Meet Valerie Jones Valerie Jones is the author of The Selfish Year , host of The Selfish Woman podcast , and founder of The Selfish Woman movement . Her work helps women let go of ‘good girl’ conditioning and people-pleasing, stop seeking external approval and build unapologetic self-trust. Valerie meets women exactly where they are and helps them show up for themselves, fully. You can learn more about Valerie on her website and buy her book The Selfish Year on Amazon . Complete Valerie's quiz to find out the hidden ways you might be sabotaging yourself. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation? Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating the emotional journey of separation, as well as practical advice to help you through every step of the process. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram .

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The ‘selfish’ woman's guide to divorce is an episode from The Divorce Podcast by amicable.

This episode is 38:01 long.

This episode was published on Apr 1, 2026.

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