How to Get Over a Breakup: The Mistakes Everyone Makes, And Why You Can’t Let Go Of Your Ex, with Amy Chan

Breaking up is hard to do… we’ve watched hundreds of movies and listened to thousands of songs about the universal experience of heartbreak — yet no one ever really teaches us how to navigate breakups, let go of love, and move on in a healthy way. So today, we called in the breakup pro: I’m joined by relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan, to cover the psychology of breakups, why we stay in the wrong relationships, and how to actually heal after heartbreak without losing yourself in the process. Amy offers a scientific approach to healing the heart, revealing what actually happens in your brain during a breakup, and why heartbreak and situationships can take on an addictive quality. Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She’s the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She’s the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she’s on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute. Whether you’re in the “should I stay or should I go” phase, currently going through a fresh breakup, or ready to move on from an ex, this conversation will give you the clarity, actionable tools, and perspective you need to come out stronger on the other side. Tune in to hear more about: How to know when it’s time to break up (even when nothing is “wrong”) The 4 key pillars of a healthy relationship to assess compatibility Why we stay in unfulfilling or dead-end relationships The psychology of heartbreak and emotional withdrawal Is it easier to initiate the breakup or be broken up with? The biggest breakup mistakes Why you need to stop creeping your ex on social media Why breakups and situationships can feel addictive and how to stop toxic patterns Why we romanticize our exes (the rose-coloured glasses effect) Can you stay friends with an ex? The rules around post-breakup contact How to set boundaries that support healing and closure This is part one of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you’re ready to start dating again, don’t miss next week’s episode on how to date smarter and build healthier, lasting relationships. Follow Amy on Instagram and her website . You can order her new book, Unsingle , here .

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How to Get Over a Breakup: The Mistakes Everyone Makes, And Why You Can’t Let Go Of Your Ex, with Amy Chan is an episode from Teach Me How To Adult by Gillian Berner / Frequency Podcast Network.

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This episode was published on Apr 8, 2026.

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