Executive function: Managing frustration

Success in life — that looks different for everyone. But skills like persistence, managing frustration and emotional regulation tend to scaffold that success, no matter what the end result looks like. These skills are all part of what scientists call executive function, something we're focusing on this season. We like to talk about executive function, because young children have lots of chances to practice these skills! In this episode, we look at how to build frustration tolerance. One of the best ways to do that is to play games — games where your child occasionally loses! Joining My New Life Host Jessica Rolph is Licensed Clinical Social Worker and founder of Starr Therapy, Talia Filippelli . She is a Genius of Play ambassador and has contributed to the Emotional Wellness Playbook . Takeaways: Our brains develop back to front over our lifespan, and the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for executive function, isn't fully developed until age 30. So adjust your expectations accordingly! Play is a great place to start building these skills. Coach your child through losing a game, rather than avoiding your child's unhappiness at all costs. Explaining that every game has a loser, can help develop appropriate expectations. Talia starts games with her child by explaining: "I can't tell you who's going to win. I can't predict the future. We don't know how this is going to go." If your child's frustration is mounting (particularly if siblings are involved) encourage them to take a pause and to recognize the signals in their body: "I can see you're getting frustrated. And I can tell because I see you're moving all your pieces around..." Then validate their feelings and encourage them to put their feelings to words: "Tell me about what's making you feel frustrated about this game." If children don't have the language to express what they're feeling, they will often resort to behaviors, some of them unwelcome. The Lovevery wooden emotion dolls can help with emotional coaching. Ask your child where they feel the frustration in their body and point it out on the figure. With children who prefer tasks and games that are easy for them, Talia likes to introduce the word "challenge". "You're so good at this game, why not go for something that's going to be a little harder and see how you do? Challenges can be fun!" Mentioned in this episode: Brought to you by Lovevery.com Find Talia Filippelli at Starr Therapy Receive weekly emails about your child's development, and stay in the know about new play essentials, promos, and more by signing up at Lovevery.com Follow Lovevery and Jessica Rolph on Instagram

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Executive function: Managing frustration is an episode from My New Life by Kate Garlinge.

This episode is 25:22 long.

This episode was published on Mar 13, 2024.

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