10: Permission to Indulge in a Little Self-Pity

Do you ever feel sorry for yourself? Most of us do at one time or another. We may call it "having a pity party" or self-pity, but it's something that prompts very different opinions. In today's show, I'm giving you a little advice about why it's OK to indulge in self-pity at times. "Self-pity in its early stage is as snug as a feather mattress; only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable." --Maya Angelou What you'll hear in this episode: When was the last time you felt sorry for yourself? After all, it's a natural human response! Sometimes we think that self-pity is bad and wrong in every way Why self-pity is perfectly fine at times If you say you never have self-pity, then you probably aren't honest or even human "The more you avoid something, the more energy you actually give to it." Why would you want to give an enormous amount of energy to something you don't want? Why it's OK to admit that sometimes things just suck and you just feel sucky Go to the pity party! Show up for the appetizers and then leave Own your self-pity and give yourself a time limit My recent cancer scare and my anger that prompted a "pity party" "Have I not been through enough?" Why it's OK to enjoy the "featherbed" for a little while and then go back home Feeling guilty about feeling sorry for yourself just makes it worse How to cope: Have a glass of wine---just one! Talk to a trusted friend Howard Schultz said, "In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, 'Listen, I have to be responsible for myself'."

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10: Permission to Indulge in a Little Self-Pity is an episode from Letters to My Daughter by Elisa Hays.

This episode is 10:11 long.

This episode was published on May 16, 2018.

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