Becoming a Mom at 45: Alexis Allegra’s IVF and Embryo Donation Story

Today’s guest is Alexis Allegra, and her path to motherhood is one of those stories that reminds you just how many twists and pivots this journey can take. Alexis met her person later in life and, like so many of us, thought, okay — let’s go, let’s start trying right away. But what followed was nearly three years of fertility treatments… chemical pregnancies… failed IVF transfers… and a whole lot of heartbreak and regrouping. In her mid-40s, when things weren’t unfolding the way she’d imagined, Alexis made a brave pivot to embryo donation — a decision that ultimately led her to her healthy baby. In this episode, Ali and Alexis talk about trying to build a family on a timeline you didn’t plan for, grieving the losses you don’t always talk about, redefining what motherhood can look like, and staying open to a path that might be different — but just as beautiful. EPISODE SPONSORS: WORK OF ART BOOK SERIES Ali's Children's Book Series about IVF, IUI and Family Building Through Assisted Reproductive Technology The latest book in the Work of ART series, “You Are a Work of ART," is for every kiddo born through ART -- and the people who love them. Order "Work of ART," "Beautiful Bird" and "You Are a Work of ART," now at FERTILITY RALLY IG: @fertilityrally No one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at fertilityrally.com. We offer 5 to 6 support groups per week, three private Facebook groups, tons of curated IRL and virtual events, and an entire community of more than 500 women available to support you, no matter where you are in your journey. Join today at link in bio on IG @fertilityrally or at PHERDAL IG: @pherdal_science PherDal is the world’s first and only FDA-cleared, sterile, at-home insemination kit designed to help people build their families in the comfort of home. Created by parents who’ve been there, PherDal is safe, simple, and affordable—putting more options in your hands as you grow your family. Explore at PherDal.com. Go to PherDal.com today and use code INFERTILEAF for $10 off. BERRY FERTILITY IG: @berry.fertility The Berry Fertility app is packed with support: dozens of injection tutorials, over 100 articles, 200 FAQs, and if you still have questions, the Berry team is literally a tap away through in-app chat. Berry has a free version, and you can try Premium free for seven days. After that, it’s $12.99 a month or $99 for the year. InfertileAF listeners get 30% off an annual membership with the code INFERTILEAF when you sign up at berryfertility.com or in the Berry Fertility app. Advertising Inquiries: Privacy & Opt-Out:

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Becoming a Mom at 45: Alexis Allegra’s IVF and Embryo Donation Story is an episode from Infertile AF by Alison Prato.

This episode is 44:05 long.

This episode was published on Feb 13, 2026.

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