How to Set Boundaries without Guilt

Send us Fan Mail Setting boundaries isn't about being rude or selfish—it's about protecting your peace and improving your relationships. Research shows people who set clear boundaries are not only happier but 53% more productive, while 60% of us feel stressed because we lack them. • Boundaries are gates (not walls) that allow you to control what and who gets access to your time and energy • Even Jesus set boundaries—if he could say no, we can too • "No" is a complete sentence that doesn't require explanation or apology • Reframe boundaries as acts of love that protect both parties from resentment • Use the "pause rule" before committing to requests to give yourself time to decide • Try the three-part boundary script: state it clearly, offer an alternative if desired, end kindly • Start with small boundaries and build up your "boundary muscle" over time • Leverage technology to support your boundaries (Do Not Disturb mode, calendar blocking) • Guilt is a sign you're unlearning people-pleasing, not doing something wrong • Every "no" frees up space for your best "yes" This week, write down three areas where you're feeling drained, choose one boundary to practice, and tell a friend to help keep you accountable. For more resources, check out Season 1, Episode 9 on avoiding burnout as well as the book "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Support the show Visit for more information and to sign up for the monthly Holly's Happenings e-newsletter. Holly's Highlights podcast and the opinions and ideas shared within it are for entertainment purposes only. The advice should be confirmed with a qualified professional.

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How to Set Boundaries without Guilt is an episode from Holly's Highlights by Holly Curby.

This episode is 12:05 long.

This episode was published on Sep 2, 2025.

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