The New Rules of Dating for Ambitious Women with Amy Chan

Dating in 2026 can feel… bleak. Everyone is analyzing “red flags,” burned out on dating apps, and building emotional walls to stay safe out there. Sound relatable? In this episode of Ambition 2.0, Amanda Goetz sits down with relationship expert Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, bestselling author of Breakup Bootcamp, and author of the upcoming book Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts—to talk about what’s actually going wrong in modern dating (especially for ambitious women) and how to date smarter. Amy breaks down why high-achieving women can accidentally bring “CEO energy” into their love lives—turning dating into a project, over-functioning, and doing 90% of the work. You’ll learn how to stop over-giving, create space so someone can show you who they are, and why it’s not your job to coach someone out of their insecurity. Plus, Amy shares her “dating funnel” framework (lead generation → evaluation → commitment) and the underrated stage most people skip: the evaluation phase (a.k.a.: dates 3–20, where character is revealed). If you’re dating right now—or you want a smarter path to partnership—this episode is for you. You’ll learn: Why modern dating feels broken—and how hyper-fixating on red flags is blocking connection How “CEO energy” can sabotage dating and what to do instead Why it’s not your job to fix or coach a partner out of insecurity What emotional wealth really means (and why it matters more than money) Amy’s “dating funnel” framework and why dates 3–20 are crucial How “ick culture” keeps people single How to reopen your heart if dating has made you guarded, burned out, or distrustful 00:00 Intro 03:22 Women’s standards are rising—and “survival coupling” is over 05:04 What is the “CEO energy” problem? 07:26 How to leave space and let them show who they are 10:12 Emotional wealth > financial flex: what men can do differently now 14:50 Amy’s dating funnel framework 21:08 The internet’s worst dating advice GUEST LINKS Instagram: TikTok: Read Breakup Bootcamp: Pre-order Unsingle: FOLLOW THE PODCAST IG: | TikTok: Amanda Goetz: SIGN UP

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The New Rules of Dating for Ambitious Women with Amy Chan is an episode from Girlboss Radio with Sophia Amoruso by Girlboss.

This episode is 42:42 long.

This episode was published on Jan 20, 2026.

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