How to Talk to Your Teenager (When They Don't Want to Talk) - with Tim & Mark Shoemaker

Ever ask your teenager "How was your day?" and get nothing but a grunt and "fine?" You miss the days when they were little and told you everything. Now they've gone quiet right when you need to know what's going on most. In this conversation with Tim and Mark Shoemaker (father-son duo and authors of "What to Say and How to Say It to Your Teen"), we're talking about how to get your teenager to open up, what conversations you need to be having before they leave home, and how to reach their heart instead of just winning arguments. Tim and Mark share why the tactics that worked in elementary school backfire with teens, how to avoid conversation killers (interrupting, sarcasm, claiming to know their motives), and why atmosphere, timing, and tone matter more than you think (hint: take them to a restaurant, not their bedroom). We talk about the 30 tricky conversations parents need to have (friends, dating, screens, faith, anxiety, gender, church pushback), when to deal with something immediately versus waiting for the right moment (the Jesus-in-the-temple lesson you've never heard), and what to do when you've already blown it so many times you feel like you've lost their trust. This episode is for you if: • Your teenager has stopped talking to you and you don't know how to connect • You're terrified of having "the big conversations" (sex, faith, mental health, culture) • You resort to lecturing and then wonder why they tune you out • You've already blown it multiple times and don't know how to rebuild trust • You interrupt them because you "already know" what they're going to say • You don't know when something is urgent versus when it can wait • You're watching the teenage years slip by and know you need to speak into their life NOW Tim and Mark give practical guidance on asking questions first (not lecturing), how to truly listen (Mark's dad took notes while he talked!), and why teenagers are incredibly forgiving when you genuinely apologize and try again. Plus, the rat trap object lesson that shows your teen you're trying to protect them, not control them. Remember: This isn't about winning an argument. It's about reaching their heart. And there's still time. 📖 RESOURCE MENTIONED: Tim and Mark's book: "What to Say and How to Say It to Your Teen: A Parent's Guide to 30 Tricky Conversations" (affiliate) 🔗 CONNECT WITH TIM & MARK: Tim's website: Mark on Instagram: Support the show

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How to Talk to Your Teenager (When They Don't Want to Talk) - with Tim & Mark Shoemaker is an episode from Equipping Godly Women Podcast by Brittany Ann.

This episode is 31:40 long.

This episode was published on Apr 22, 2026.

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