How to Take Control and Create the Life You Actually Want

Do you keep waiting for better opportunities, better conversations, or better people to show up in your life? In this episode, I break down the powerful shift from victim mode to facilitator mode and why this one mindset change can completely transform your relationships, your environment, and your opportunities. I share how to start creating better conversations, curating your own community, and stepping into leadership even when it feels uncomfortable. Get ready to stop blaming your environment and start becoming the one who creates it. Check out our Sponsors: Granola - Granola is an AI-powered notepad built for the way real people actually meet. Get three months free at Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci, Sign up for your $1/month trial period at Indeed - Spend less time searching, and more time actually interviewing candidates who check all your boxes. Indeed is giving Earn Your Happy listeners a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to help get your job the premium status it deserves. Just go to right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on Earn Your Happy. Rella - Rella is a project management platform built specifically for social media managers and teams. Go to and use code EARN for 10% off your first three months or annual plan. HIGHLIGHTS Why “waiting to be invited” keeps you stuck in victim mode. The difference between victim mode vs. facilitator mode. How to instantly shift the energy in any room or conversation. Why you should start your own mastermind (even for FREE). How creating your own opportunities makes you magnetic. Why taking ownership makes you magnetic to new opportunities. RESOURCES Apply for the Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind HERE! Get on the waitlist for Mentor Collective Mastermind HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci

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How to Take Control and Create the Life You Actually Want is an episode from Earn Your Happy by Lori Harder.

This episode is 17:46 long.

This episode was published on Apr 2, 2026.

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