Rewire Your Brain & Get "Unsingle" With Amy Chan - 461

*Special Announcement* Dear Shandy will be moderating Amy's Book Launch Event in NYC on May 5th, 2026! For more info visit: It's not every day we bring back a Hot Topic guest, but when Amy Chan writes a new book, YOU BRING HER BACK. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy is a relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamp, retreats that apply a scientific, psychological approach to healing heartbreak and rewiring dating patterns. It has been 4.5 years since we first had Amy on, and now with her new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts" (April 28, 2026), she shares the science of rewiring your brain to actually find success in your love life. Today Amy chats your unconscious patterns, how being otherwise "high-achieving" is working against you, and at what leg in the "Dating Funnel" you're getting stuck. We promise you'll never see dating the same way again after hearing Amy's insights. Watch on to get "Unsingle"! Our first episode with Amy: Thanks to our sponsors: - Go to and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off! - Go to and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to and use code SHANDY to get 20% off your first order! - Go to and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! More Amy: The Book, 'Unsingle': ⁠ Instagram: Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome (Back) Amy Chan! 3:30 - Unconscious Patterns 6:44 - Does Being Otherwise “High-Achieving” Work Against You In Dating? 11:00 - The Dating Funnel 16:16 - Expanding Horizons 25:34 - The Experiment 27:37 - Age Gaps 29:13 - Over-Icking 33:15 - Chemistry 49:14 - Situationships 51:29 - People Pleasing 54:18 - The Grass Is Always Greener 56:39 - What You Can Do Now To Rewire Your Brain 58:52 - Final Takeaways If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

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Rewire Your Brain & Get "Unsingle" With Amy Chan - 461 is an episode from Dear Shandy by Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine.

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This episode was published on Apr 23, 2026.

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