31: 3 Ways to Kickstart Your Stale Marriage

Almost four years ago, I realized I was a terrible husband. I was lazy, unintentional, unreliable, and more. If not for a chance encounter with a couple who would quickly become my friends and mentors, I have no doubt that I'd be writing about my former marriage by now. Since then, I've spent four years learning and applying as much as I can to improve my relationship and by sharing my favorite lessons learned from the pros, help you improve yours, too, no matter how great your relationship already is! If you're new to the site, the best ways to get into my head and take advantage of the research I've done (and mistakes I've made) already are to pick up my book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch , check out more posts right here, follow me on social channels, or listen to the podcast (It's on iTunes , Spotify , Stitcher , iHeartRadio , and more. Just hover over the word "podcast" on the top of any page on the site!). Although my marriage is much improved, it's definitely been more of a roller coaster than a rocket ship launching into space. We have ups and downs, like any relationship, although the ups are "uppier" and the downs are less "downish." Yes, I made those words up. It's my blog. I can do that. :) We've had periods where we make great progress and then weeks or months where things feel a bit stale and need a kickstart. When that happens, these three things help regain focus, direction, and momentum! Change your dinner plans. It's no secret that Dan and Joanne Miller were the first marriage mentors who I connected with to help me transform my relationship. Since meeting them, I've been very intentional to surround myself with many other men, women, and couples with great marriages so I can learn as much as possible. As motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, we're the average of the five people we spend the most time with. One of the easiest ways to start with this is to just begin making dinner plans with couples you believe have great marriages. Keep it simple. You don't need any magic words or to ask any specific questions. Just spend more time with people who have relationships like you want to build and less time with people who don't. You can learn a ton just by being around people with great marriages. Change your programming with new books, podcasts, or video content. If you can't find people with great marriages to spend more time with, find virtual mentors by reading books, listening to podcasts, or watching great video content. If you can do this with your spouse, even better. But if not, that's okay. Make the first move by consuming content that can help you improve your relationship and applying the lessons you learn. Before I turned 30, I had read fewer than 10 books for personal growth, and those were all finance and business books. After turning 30, I started reading more business and marketing books. Although my finances looked great and my career was going well, my personal life was pretty . . . well, you know the name of this blog, so that pretty much says it all. :) Now, I'm constantly either reading a book , listening to a podcast, or watching a video about improving my relationship and then committing to applying at least one thing I learned from the material. My favorite way to do it is through audiobooks, which I can listen to while emptying the dishwasher, cleaning my office, and more. I highly recommend everyone

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31: 3 Ways to Kickstart Your Stale Marriage is an episode from Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch! by Nick Pavlidis.

This episode is 16:57 long.

This episode was published on Mar 20, 2017.

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