Legally Nik Is Back: Narcissists, Child Maintenance and Holidays

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions around coercive and post separation abuse. In this episode of Blended, Kate is joined by Nathalie and special guest co-host Legally Nik, family and child protection lawyer, who is back to help the panel unpack some of your most complex legal dilemmas. The episode begins by revisiting the conversation from a few weeks ago with @Jessrunsforsurvivors, diving deeper into narcissistic ex-partners and coercive control. Nik explains that coercive control is illegal but incredibly difficult to prove. She breaks down what it looks like in court, how the legal system approaches it, and shares practical advice on communication tools such as yellow rocking and creating safer boundaries. The second dilemma focuses on frustrations with the Child Maintenance Service. A listener feels it is unfair that when starting a new family, payments are only reduced by a small percentage. Nik explains why the system works as it does, why nobody is ever completely happy with it and why the law ultimately prioritises the child above all else. The final dilemma is from a mum who wants to take her child on holiday but is being told she needs the father’s permission because they have different surnames. Nik clarifies the legal position, explaining that surnames are irrelevant and consent is still required where parental responsibility is shared. As always, Kate and Nathalie ask the questions many blended families are thinking and Nik provides the legal clarity behind the emotions. For more support contact Legally Nik Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Legally Nik Is Back: Narcissists, Child Maintenance and Holidays is an episode from Blended by Kate Ferdinand .

This episode is 57:22 long.

This episode was published on Apr 1, 2026.

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