251 — My Mom Hid a Family Secret for 20 Years…

Have you ever found out someone you love wasn't telling you the whole truth, and even though it wasn't malicious, something inside you shifted? That quiet crack in trust can change a relationship more than any dramatic betrayal ever could. In this episode of Life Happens with Barb & Michelle, this mother-daughter duo gets deeply personal about dishonesty. Not the headline-grabbing kind, but the everyday white lies, the withheld truths, the stories we tell ourselves about "protecting" the people we love. From family secrets revealed years later to the small manipulations that slowly erode trust, Barb and Michelle unpack what honesty really costs and what it makes possible. 💬 Barb shares how she navigated telling Michelle about her bulimia, a family affair, and the alcoholism in their lineage, and why she trusted life to present the right timing rather than forcing the conversation. 💬 Michelle opens up about what it felt like to learn major truths about her family as a young adult, how those revelations triggered a "what else don't I know?" spiral, and why her mom's non-judgmental space made all the difference. ✨ In This Episode, We Discuss: The difference between withholding truth to protect versus withholding to manipulate and control How Michelle learned about her dad's affair through a Facebook message years after his death, and how Barb handled the fallout Why Barb believes "life will present the timing" for hard conversations with your kids The real damage of small, repeated white lies versus big one-time revelations How calling someone a "liar" or "gaslighter" can short-circuit a conversation, and what to say instead Creating a safe space where your child (or anyone) can tell the truth without being punished first Why trust can be broken in a moment but takes patience and intention to rebuild "I truly believe the truth will set you free. I become tethered to lies." Whether you're a parent wondering what to share and when, or someone rebuilding trust after it cracked, this episode will make you feel less alone in the mess of it. Barb and Michelle don't pretend to have perfect answers. They just show you what it looks like to keep choosing honesty, even when it's uncomfortable. Pull up a seat and listen in. 0:00 - Cold Open 0:57 - Welcome to Life Happens with Barb & Michelle 1:15 - Introducing Today's Topic: Truth & Dishonesty 2:12 - Truth Used to Be a Core Value — What Changed? 11:21 - Parent-Child Honesty: When & How to Share Hard Truths 13:45 - The "True Hat" Rule: A Family Trust Agreement 19:41 - Finding Out About Dad's Affair Through Facebook 22:18 - Letting Life Present the Right Moment to Tell the Truth 28:38 - Are White Lies More Harmful Than Big Ones? 29:33 - Work Colleague Story: When White Lies Become Control 34:01 - Lying About Drinking as a Teen & Creating Safe Spaces 41:09 - "Raised by Cave People" — Extending Grace to Our Parents 47:07 - Don't Use "You Are" — Use "I Feel" Language 49:27 - Creating Safe Spaces & Repairing Broken Trust 51:16 - Closing & Thank You 📘 Go Deeper with Dear Friend If this episode on Dishonesty and Trust resonated with you, you may also love Michelle’s USA TODAY bestselling book, Dear Friend , a daily reflection companion designed to help you reconnect with your inner voice, honor your needs, and find clarity and strength one day at a time. Because resilience doesn’t begin with changing your circumstances. It begins with strengthening your relationship with yourself. And that may be the most important relationship you’ll ever build. 👉 Order your copy: 🎧 Listen to the audiobook and step into a year that truly loves you back: 💬 We’d love to hear from you! What insight or moment resonated most with you in this episode? Share in the comments—we truly read every one. 📅

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251 — My Mom Hid a Family Secret for 20 Years… is an episode from Barb Knows Best by Michelle Maros & Barb Schmidt.

This episode is 00:57:56 long.

This episode was published on Mar 31, 2026.

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