Attachment- Bond, Boundaries, & Bringing Up Baby

0:48-Mom Montage | reflections on meeting baby for the first time 2:44- The reality around meeting baby and bonding with them for the first time -expectations vs. reality -1/3 of birthing parents deal with birth trauma - the parent-child attachment bond is critical for social, emotional, and cognitive development -does not rest on any specific moment in time or one singular experience [including the birthing moment] 6:46 – We create and cultivate secure attachment beyond that first meeting moment by using the 3 R’s 1. Reflection- using narration 2. Responding [sensitively] 3. Rupture & Repair 11:35- Why we should strive to embrace the messy and to be okay with a relationship rupture -children learn to trust through rupture and repair -we are teaching them to learn that we can move from a negative to a positive -we are teaching them emotion regulation -they are learning about resilience because they didn’t feel alone as you helped them through these emotions 15:47- Our children are hardwired from birth to seek the responses they need -the child plays a role in the relationship -it takes 2 to tango 19:09 – Daycare separation and the want and desire to be with your child for every “first” moment -the key to a secure attachment is proximity in order to explore 22:35- Does perfect parenting actually exist? -The notions of “reparenting” and becoming conscious of how you were raised -Ask yourself, what did I need growing up that I did not receive? 25:21 – Self-Compassion 101 -use your inner voice to encourage and lift yourself up not to be a critic -speak to yourself the way you speak to your children 29:58– The importance of boundaries and limit setting with our children 32:20 – Why we should stop striving for perfection -It’s okay to step on toes as you navigate parenthood -Advocate for yourself as a parent -The hardest part of the identity shake-up of Motherhood is learning to find your voice 34:55- Confidence Corner Product 1: ERGObaby Embrace Carrier Product 2: Stokke Tripp Trapp Complete + Newborn Set Haleigh’s Baby Registry Product Picks Top Carriers of 2021 StokkeTripp Trapp Product Review About our Guest Dr. Tanya Cotler is a Clinical Psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in reproductive mental health, infant mental health, and parent-child attachment. Through nearly 20 years of clinical and research experience, Dr. Cotler has honed her particular interest in the emotional bond between parent and child – including how it is formed and the role it plays in lifelong capacities for emotion regulation, empathy, and social-emotional development. Connect @drcotler tanyacotlerphd.com Learn More @snugglebugzbaby snugglebugz.ca

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